Heal Painful Relationship Patterns
And Sense More Freedom and Fulfillment Than You Have In Years
End the struggle with painful relationship patterns,
and experience more connection, love, and FUN by disentangling problems at the root.
Let’s face it: relationships can be challenging.
They often start out amazing, especially when you feel like you’ve met someone with whom you can connect deeply, and you get that gooey, delicious flood of chemistry.
And then, time passes…
You find that you’re not as compatible as you once believed you were.
And you may find yourself:
Struggling to communicate your needs and desires in a healthy or loving way — and instead getting disoriented by anger, withdrawing or relying on messy, unhelpful survival strategies
Feeling like roommates or friends instead of romantic partners, after the thrill of infatuation has long gone
Having the sense of being undervalued, unappreciated, or undesirable to your partner — or not valuing, appreciating, or desiring them
Struggling to understand what your partner wants — and being unsure of how to improve communication
Arguing or bickering too much with your partner — and letting resentments pile up over time
Maybe your partner doesn’t seem to be as committed to personal growth and development as you are. Maybe the two of you never make time for play. Maybe, as one of my recent clients put it, “Everything sucks.”
It’s so common to face challenges in relationship that can lead to disconnection!
But that doesn’t make it any less scary or uncomfortable, am I right?! No fun at all!
What if one of you leaves, and then you end up regretting it later? (Oof!)
What if someone ends up being unfaithful? (UGH.)
Or (maybe worse) — what if you end up one of those complacent couples who’s just settled for unhappiness? (Boriiiiiing!)
Hey, my client was right! Looking at those options, everything does suck!!
But what if there were a way out of the suckiness — one that didn’t require months of therapy, endless “talking out the problem” with friends, or compromising your own needs and values? What if there were an option that peppered in some fun and enjoyment along the way?
RADR (Relationship Attunement and Distance Reiki) is a unique, soulful container in which you will be safely supported to reflect and reframe around your most challenging relationship issues — so you can reconnect with yourself and those you love.
I’ll work with you to end the frustrating patterns that may have plagued your most important relationships — maybe for years — in a safe, inviting & warm private setting.
How It Works
Through proven Reiki healing tools and intuitive, emotionally safe coaching, I’ll support you through the tough stuff, hold you within the tender stuff, and explore with you the fun stuff! It is my honor and deep pleasure to lovingly create this space and facilitate these sessions. Here’s what to expect.
This 1:1 session is conducted virtually.
To increase emotional safety, we’ll meet via audio-only zoom. I will warmly welcome and invite you to articulate your current relationship issue. I’ll then support you to walk through what’s happening with curiosity and without judgment, asking intentional questions designed to get to the heart of the matter.
I will offer intuitive and emotional support around whatever may be coming up for you, after which I’ll conduct a distance Reiki healing session designed to help release stuck patterns and energetic blockages that may be impacting the issue at hand.
Here’s how to prepare for and what to expect during your session.
You’ll want to wear something cozy and choose a nice, comfortable spot where you won’t be disturbed. Be sure to address any physical needs for comfort ahead of time like using the restroom, grabbing your water bottle, warm tea, favorite blanket, phone on Do not Disturb, cozy socks. Anything and everything that sets you up for a comfortable and distraction-free experience.
During your distance Reiki session, you simply get to relax. You may choose to soak in a tub, meditate, stargaze, or simply lie comfortably on your bed. The Reiki will do the work, all you need to do is rest and receive.
You’ll receive post-session follow-up and support.
After the session, I’ll ask for your takeaways and share welcomed insights and intuitive messages. Then we will team up and brainstorm loving after-care options and follow-up actions, maybe even some home-play! (Who needs more work?)
Within 48 hours of our session, I will reach out via email to see how everything is landing for you and from there we can celebrate and delight in your renewed energy and connection and/or discuss the option for further support if needed.
What Clients Are Saying
“Valarie set up a heck of a remote Relationship/Reiki container. Before our session I was kind of a mess. My thoughts were all over the place, and I felt very anxious about aspects of my relationship with my husband.
We discussed the issue, Valarie heard, listened, understood, and succinctly relieved a large portion of my anxious burden by pointing out where I was bullshitting myself, then grounding my perspective back in reality. That by itself was extremely helpful.
The healing was absolutely delicious. I felt utterly relaxed and open to receive all the goodness that she was sending me. After the Reiki we each discussed our impressions.
I don’t know exactly how Valarie did it, but the anxiety and charge around this long standing issue left me that night and has not returned since. I am so grateful.”
– Elena W
“I was stuck in a loop around communicating with my partner. Working with Valarie helped me to see the situation from a different perspective-Valarie was instrumental in helping me with words to use to talk with my partner which made a huge difference in the outcome of our conversation.
I couldn’t believe how easy it was! The Reiki was incredibly powerful. I had been feeling constricted, pent up and angry before the call. After the Reiki I was relaxed and clear. I believe having these two modalities working together catalyzed my communication and was responsible for things turning out so well.”
— Cathy W
“Oh my goodness, this was like a spa for the soul. I felt your genuine love and unconditional support at every moment, and felt free to share without restraint or fear of judgment. During the session I could feel that the “charge” around this issue was completely dissolved.
What’s more, I was able to discover a pattern that had been with me for a lifetime, and heal the story that had led to that continuing to show up for me.
I was really struggling with my boundaries and sovereignty, and it was tangled up in a story of guilt, causing me to pretzel myself to try and avoid any perception of being “selfish” or “needy”-in this relationship, or in ANY relationship.
The freedom this discovery has allowed is priceless. Thank you so much for bringing your beautiful energy and skills to my life!”
– Helen H
“Thank you Valarie! It was perfect timing, and I felt so calm and free while receiving the Reiki, which is not a common thing for me. I felt supported from a distance, and it helped me go through my day with more ease and flow!”
– Mira Z
I created RADR because I love intimacy!
And I have a unique set of skills and training that equip me to support others toward more of the same ooey-gooey deliciousness that I get to enjoy.
Facilitating these sessions brings me so much joy! It actually is MY pleasure. I sit in awe of the changes that take place in someone’s life and relationships when they’ve been gently supported out of their own way, and guided back to their innate truth and wisdom.
My clients walk away from sessions with a sense of transformation, leading to changes in their relationships as well. Shifts within yourself have a ripple effect in that way. I look forward to holding divine space for you inside of this unique container.
Imagine having the sense of...
Freedom: Picture yourself free from the weight of past hurts and emotional wounds. I’ll help you release the patterns that have held you back in your relationships.
Confidence: Imagine stepping into every relationship with newfound confidence. You'll learn to trust yourself and your choices, knowing that you have the tools to create healthy, loving connections!
Empowerment: No longer being at the mercy of painful patterns, but experiencing more inner strength, as you gain a deeper understanding of your own needs and desires. Feeling inspired to set loving boundaries and communicate your wants effectively.
Radiance: Shine from within with the glow of self-love and self-acceptance. As you heal and grow, you'll radiate positivity and attract the kind of love and connection you truly deserve.
Fulfillment: Envision a life with lasting happiness and genuine connection in your most important relationships.
Enthusiasm: Having the desire, the energy, and the tools to shape your relationship destiny!
Love: Ultimately, imagine the deep, authentic love and connection you've always craved. Our session together will help you open your heart to receive and give love in its purest form.
Are you ready for a potent change? Join me on this transformative journey as we heal, grow, and infuse more love and magic into your relationships and your whole damn life!
Book Your Session Today
If you’re looking not to just “solve” an issue with your partner, but to bring deep awareness and healing to it, and to develop a stronger, more intimate connection as a result, I invite you to explore this one-of-a-kind, truly transformative offering.